Last week was very productive. I finally got my second article sent off to “The People’s Tribune” a paper which I have written for in the past. The writing process this time around was much less stressful. Least of all, my Hyperacusis was under control compared to last time. Both the articles I’ve written deal with education, specifically Democratic Schools such as the Sudbury Valley School in Framingham, Massachusetts and The Albany Free School in Albany, New York. The rest of my week was wonderful to say the least. My good friend, who I talked about in my last post, came to visit. We had a marvelous time simply hanging out, catching up on each other’s lives, and listening to music. He let me know he was going to be around over Christmas break and would like to see me then as well.
Friendship is a funny thing when you are going though a chronic illness like Hyperacusis, or any illness where isolation is one of the symptoms. The majority of my other friends (although we remain great friends) haven’t visited me as often as the friend mentioned in my last post. He has been far and above the most active in my life since my Hyperacusis. By active I mean that he comes to visit as often as he can. In short he has been there for me through the thick and thin of it. My other friends, by contrast, support me, it seems, from afar. Their support is very meaningful; however, when you’re dealing with a chronic illness, face-to-face time with the ones you love and cherish becomes even more essential. And as far as the Hyperacusis is concerned, even if we can’t talk to each other, just seeing a human face can remind me that I am still myself and that my disease is only one aspect, and not the totality of who I am. The one other friend who has done a wonderful job is my childhood friend, who used to be my neighbor. To give you an idea of what he’s like, when I called him up in terrible pain from the Hyperacusis and my hand and wrist issues, he immediately said, “Well, I have to get the fuck over there then.” No questions, no trying to convince me otherwise, just a no-nonsense recognition of my needs. These two friends were able to provide the same comfort to me though in very different ways. I feel so grateful to all my friends and family for having the courage to see me through these difficult times.